Two things before I go into my main point here:
- I can recognize really offensive/cliche/stereotypical jokes towards groups of people but I usually don’t address the joke (even though I should), because 99% of the time, they don’t offend me/aren’t directed towards me. And people who make the jokes don’t really understand why I would tell them to stop if it doesn’t have anything to do with me, so I usually just don’t laugh or ignore it. Also, I get that almost everyone is part of a specific group that gets marginalized, and there is some stereotype for everyone’s race/gender/whatever, even if that specific person does not fit into any of those stereotypes. The fact is that everyone stereotypes everything and/or everyone is aware of the stereotypes that will probably be made towards them (whether it offends them or not, and whether they fit the stereotype or not.)
- It really sucks when someone you really like and enjoy constantly makes these kinds of jokes and you don’t want to cause this weird tension between you and them by calling them out on it. This is a general statement.
So now that I have made those two points, I will now say this:
I’ll be honest, I get really pissed off when people make Jew jokes. Sometimes in general, but mostly when they’re made at me. Not offended, just annoyed that people do it. Like, yeah, it’s funny that I’m the only Jew in my group of friends for the most part and that I don’t celebrate Christmas and that I’ve never had a Christmas tree or Christmas lights. I can deal with everyone making comments about that because even though it gets fucking annoying around this time of the year, it’s normal. It’s whatever. But today this kid that I really enjoy being around, Tommy, who makes me laugh until I cry, just pissed me off. I’M NOT TRYING TO MAKE A BIG DEAL ABOUT THIS AND I’M NOT STILL MAD AT HIM. It’s just ticking me off. That is all.
We were talking about how I am Jewish and Ted made a joke about how I’m not a “real” Jew since I haven’t had a Bat Mitzvah which was funny in the context, and then Tommy said “Okay, I’m totally going to hell for this, but let’s test it out.” And he pulled out a dime and threw it on the ground and said “Go get it!” And I just stared at him. When people do things like that to me, I just feel really confused. I don’t know how to respond. So I thought for a minute, found the dime on the floor, and picked it up. And while I was doing that, he was making comments like “Oh, she’s going for it! Haha!” I picked it up and threw it at his face really hard.
And the most annoying part was that he got super pissed that I threw it at him. He has a short temper, so I understand, but he was walking around me demanding an apology, and then asking why I wasn’t apologizing, because he deserved an apology because it “really fucking hurt.” So I said “I’m sorry I hurt you.”
I didn’t want to explain to him that when you have to start something out with “I’m totally going to hell for this,” you probably shouldn’t fucking say it. I’m not offended, although it probably seems like I am. I’m just annoyed. It makes things really awkward when I’m actually truthful and say “Yeah, that kind of pissed me off and I’d appreciate it if you didn’t do it again.” So I just did what I did and brushed it off for the night.
Making this post probably seems like I’m super overdramatic but I’m really not. I think I have a reason to be annoyed?